Too much emphasis is put on being in one, having a good one, finding one, maintaining a bad one, you name it. They’re either sinking or treading water, in most cases today. IMO, women place far too much emphasis on getting into relationship instead looking at whether or not THEY are good in relationships, platonic or intimate.

Too much focus is placed on what the man is going to do while in it, bring to it, or how he will enhance her perception of it-too much pressure for any man to live up to a females expectations of what relationship should be like and do for her emotionally, socially and fiscally. That’s the first cause of the relation-ship to start sinking. There was a hole in from the start.

The second part is, most women REFUSE to admit that most men surrender into relation-ships. They say things like “It was just time.” or “Hell, we’d been together for years. Why not?” Again, the rise and fail, survival and end of a relationship falls squaring into the man’s lap, when most women know that most men don’t really want to be tied down from the jump. That’s why things are great in the beginning-he doesn’t even know for sure it’s a bad thing for him. Then, over time, he shows his ass. Which, when you want to get kicked out of class or school, what do you do? You act out in ways that get you kicked out. That way, you can tell your parents how much you want to go to school, but the teacher suspended you, so….

This is how men basically try to get excused from relationships. They never wanted to be in them. Women, on the other hand, i admire for wanting something solid, meaningful, lasting, etc. But, i can’t believe why the fairy tale of “happily ever after” seems to go in one ear and out the other. I understand it, just don’t get why women don’t. Relationships are good when their great, and suck when they aren’t. And women place all their chips on that bet, several times in a row, still wanting get right back on, when, men figures, after one bad one or two, no point in going down that road again. Men see relationships as going back to a high paying job you always hated. There are benefits to them, and everybody wants one. Not many are cut out for them.

Now, not all men are anti-marriage. But, for the most part, marriage, to many men, is on it’s way out like Blockbuster Video. There is too much risk in tying your name and assets to someone else. Male or female, it’s a huge risk. Also, you need to change or eliminate many things you used to enjoy from your life, to make a new life with someone else. Their rules, they want you to stop doing, seeing, using or buying or doing certain things that would make THEM feel better about what you don’t really want-a relationship or marriage. Again, that ship sinks.

So, much like the boat analogy, relationships can easily be set adrift, but not many of us are capable of the upkeep, navigation and survival of all who inhabit said boat.

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