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    Holding  Your Child Hostage for Money - Really?

    I woke up at 6am this morning with this on my mind.  Having prior conversation with a friend last night upset me.  This article is coming from my observations, experiences, marriage, and divorce.   First off let's begin with your child or children are a gift from God.  Secondly they did not ask YOU to be here.  So  state or vicissitude of life or fortune, here is a baby.  Now the baby is here what kind of Mother are you going to be?

    You love this child nuture this child, education, growth, strength, courage, family, understanding human differences.  Now as you go thru life marriage, separated, single parent what legacy will you leave your child or children.  IT'S ALL ABOUT THE MONEY?

    I get so perterb with you Mothers that hold your child or children hostage for the money.  Here are a few examples I have observed.  1. Don't pay child support, he don't see his child.  (so now your child has become a commodity)  2.  I need all that support check to pay my bills.  (in the meantime where is the child's clothes, shoes, hair done, after school activities)  3.  You can't keep a budget so your always using the child or children's money to make up for your mistakes!   4.  Your child or children are at the age to work and help.  (your oppportunity to teach them financial education.  Instead you take most of their money earn, and then make them feel guility for wanting to keep any for themselves)  5.  You make the child or children feel like a burden on you.  (You made the choice to open your legs and become pregnant).


    So this is how you handle your gifts?  What are you like on your Birthdays or Christmas time?  You sit back and take a pause about all the mental anquish in this country today, and forget it begins at home, the root of the source.

    Who doesn't want or need money?  Using your children to get it, is a sad commentary for a Parent(s).   Some folks will use their kids just to get a Welfare check or a SSI check.  Use their names for bills or credit.  (when they are grown wonder why they have no credit, it has already been burned by your Parent.)   Karma is a bitch, and know one but God knows when pay day is coming OK!!!!!


    Teach your child or children the value of money and how to use it.   Not hold them hostage for your own benefits.  Look at yourself, how are you living.  Are you living above your means?  Then take a course in basic economics help yourself, and family.  We are not always taught about money when we grow up.  We see Parent(s) paying the bills, but don't understand the process of why.  If your receive child support or not the main rememberance is the gift that God has place in your hands to grown and nuture.  Money will not give you that love a child has for you total and unconditional.   Not understanding what money is gives them fear of not having enough.  If know one has told you today that they love you, well I do!

    Thank you,  Lennis


    10 Percent of Female Undergrads at University of Texas Say They Were Raped


    ercent of female undergraduates in the University of Texas system's academic institutions say they have been raped since enrolling, according to a system-wide survey on sexual assault and misconduct released Friday by the University of Texas.

    The university system calls the Cultivating Learning and Safe Environments report, conducted by University of Texas Austin's Institute on Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault, "the most in-depth survey of sexual assault and misconduct ever undertaken by an institution or system of higher education in the U.S." More than 28,000 students "voluntarily and confidentially" answered questions surrounding their experiences with on- and off-campus sexual assault since enrolling, their views on how the university handles these issues, and how the experiences affected them. The only campus that didn't participate was the University of Texas Health Northeast, which didn't survey its students because there are too few enrolled to "protect their anonymity," according to the study's press release.

    “If we want to understand and continuously improve our campus culture in order to facilitate student success, then we have to be open and honest about our students’ experiences beyond the classroom, no matter how uncomfortable it is,” University of Texas System Chancellor William McRaven said in the survey's press release.

    The survey is part of a $1.7-million study led by McRaven. It's hoped that the responses provide a deeper, more nuanced understanding of sexual assault and misconduct on campus—and help the university take effective action against those issues. By polling multiple campuses, for example, some stark findings came to light. For instance, at the system's eight academic institutions, 10 percent of female undergraduate students reported being raped; at the five health institutions in the U.T. system, it was 4 percent.

    Of course, it's important to remember that with survey-based studies, the sampling of respondents isn't representative of the UT system or of the country as a whole: it's potentially made up disproportionally of people who might be more interested than the average student and therefore more likely to want to participate. As a point of comparison, the approximately 28,000 respondents make up about 12.65 percent of a total U.T. student population of around 221,300. Surveys also rely on self-reported information, which means researchers risk their data being impacted in either direction by people who aren't being entirely honest.


    That being said, here are some key findings:

    • 10 percent of female undergrads and 4 percent of male undergrads enrolled in the system's academic institutions reported being raped. Numbers were lower for students enrolled at health institutions (4 percent and 2 percent, respectively).
    • 15 percent of female undergraduate students at U.T. Austin say that they've been raped since enrolling.
    • At U.T. Austin, 68 percent of students who said they experienced "interpersonal violence" (which includes rape and harassment) didn't tell anyone about the incident. Only 6 percent told someone at the university.
    • Findings appeared to confirm other common findings of sexual assault studies: in the majority of cases of "unwanted sexual contact" (unwanted touching, attempted rape, and rape), alcohol and drugs were in play; and the majority of the time, the attacker was someone the student knew.
    • The vast majority of incidents happened off campus.

    “The findings of this study shine a brighter light on sexual assault and misconduct that affects U.T. students and give us a deeper understanding of how to address these problems," McRaven said.

    The University of Texas system isn't an outlier with these numbers, according to the press release, which said that "the prevalence rates of various types of victimization are comparable to rates at other institutions nationwide."

    Hopefully the survey will serve as an example to other universities and provide tools for institutions elsewhere to combat these issues. It certainly sounds like U.T. is happy to share what they're learning and implementing: “The goal is to arm institutions with information so they can continue to improve the safety and well-being of students and remove barriers that stand in the way of educational goals," director Noël Busch-Armendariz, Ph.D. of the U.T. Austin Institute on Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault said.


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