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It is time to adjust your feelings and emotions dear Cancer. We all know how sensitive you can become at times. Money will be taken, and money will spent all for a good cause. Have faith that all will turn out all right no matter what it is. For some Cancers this is been a year of ups and downs. All this is to make your strong and confident within yourself. You have truly grown this year dear Cancer, possibly more than some.
Between now and the end of the yer, your life will have completed a 180 degree turn around in how you face life and it’s problems. Continue to communicate, for that is only how a close mouth gets fed. Instead of retreating when you don’t understand something, or hurt by your own decisions, let love fill those empty caverns of your heart, and joy will prevail. To know thyself be true. I can see you smiling, keep going, you are almost there. (understanding) The moon may govern your emotions but not your mind, you have control, so use it.
Do you know what love is? I know you wish somebody would explain that to your heart. Well……first off learn to forgive yourself, learn to love yourself, and finally thank the Highest Good for all. Expectations will ruin anything, just do it, like the Nike commercial states. Sometimes your life feels like you are climbing a wall you just can’t seem to get over. But the wall is in your mind, it is not a physical entity. Learn to forgive “ego”, and thank the Holy Spirit. You love to read, pickup a good book that satisfies your mind, and guides your path. Don’t try to keep up but show up will be better. Learn to let go and stop holding to things that have already pass. As the Bible states, let the dead bury the dead. In other words, let go and let God. Let the vessel you dwell in breathe, and exhale. Your body only responds to what your mind thinks!
You are loved Gemini in so many ways.
Now is the time for major adjustments. Be clear of what is that you want Mr/Mrs.Ms Aries. Life is not a bowl of cherries, you eat and empty, but cause and effect. Know thyself to be true at whatever that you do. Listen to your mind, and not your heart, do some critical thinking in response to your lifestyle. Love totally and unconditionally no matter what. Learn to forgive yourself as well as others.
This is the criteria you should work on for October. That is enough.
Dating Expert Claims Black Churches Keep African American Women Single and Lonely
Dating Expert Claims Black Churches Keep African American Women Single and Lonely
*Dating expert, advice columnist and author Deborrah Cooper blasts traditional Black churches and charges that they are the root cause for the high numbers of single Black women in the U.S.
With all the media coverage (CNN, Nightline, NY Times, ABC) of the “plight” of the single black woman, and the blaming of Black women for being single, this author felt it past time to examine other reasons which could be important contributors to this sad statistic:
Black women have an inordinate amount of faith in both Black men and Black churches. My position is that such blind and unwavering faith in either is misplaced.
It is my belief that the Black church, structured around traditional gender roles which makes women submissive to and inferior to men, greatly limits females.
Single Black women sitting in church every Sunday are being subtly brainwashed, soothed and placated into waiting without demand for what they want to magically come to them. Who is doing this to Black women? The male standing at the front of the Church in the role of spiritual leader, that’s who!
This is the true reason that there are so many single, never married Black women in the United States – Black churches. Black women should abandon Black churches and focus more on themselves, their needs and those of their children than those of Black men or a religion which Black men use to castigate and control an entire race of women.
Single Black Females in Church
Black females have long been considered the backbone of the Black community and the cornerstone of their families and churches. But what is the real price Black women have paid to wear this crown of fool’s gold?
An examination of any congregation of the average Black church shows that single Black females fill the pews. Results of a recent study “African Americans and Religion” by the PEW Research Center’s Forum on Religion and Public Life found that “African Americans are markedly more religious on a variety of measures than the U.S. population as a whole.”
Almost 90% of Black Americans express “absolutely certain belief in God” compared to just over 70% of the total U.S. population. Two other important statistics gleaned from this survey: (1) 80% of Black Americans report that religion is “very important” in their lives as compared to 57% of the general U.S. population; and (2) 55% of Black Americans report that they “interpret scripture literally” as compared to 32% of the general U.S. population.
The PEW study also reported that “Men are significantly more likely than women to claim no religious affiliation. Nearly one-in-five men say they have no formal religious affiliation, compared with roughly 13% of women.”
The survey shows a distinct correlation between religion and social attitudes amongst African Americans. “African Americans who are more religiously observant (as defined by frequency of worship service attendance and the importance of religion in their lives), are more likely to oppose abortion and homosexuality, and more likely to report higher levels of conservative ideology.”
What Do The PEW Study Results Mean For Single Black Women?
They mean that:
· Following the tenets of organized religion is not going to get you anywhere because men are generally not religious.
· Going to church is not getting you the husband you seek.
· Going to church is not making you more attractive and interesting to men.
· Going to church is not where you are going to find eligible bachelors to date.
· Going to church is not going to teach you to be fiscally responsible, investment savvy, or empower you to achieve greatness as a woman.
· Going to church is not going to broaden your horizons, make you more tolerant and accepting of all God’s children, nor is it going to encourage you to be free of the chains of patriarchy and oppression of your feminine energy.
Going to church makes you a sheep, blindly following the mandates of a small group of men you have placed in your life in a position of power. Going to church makes you malleable and predictable, and narrows your thinking and thus limits your options.
Going to church for single Black women is a waste of time.
There ARE Single Men in Church, However…
Read the rest of this article at SurvivingDating.com.
If you are not marriage-oriented – do not e-mail me.
If you are MARRIED – DO NOT E-MAIL ME!
If you do not want child/children – do not e-mail me.
If you have your TUBES TIED – do not e-mail me.
If you don’t have U.S. citizenship – do not e-mail me.
If you are relocating anywhere other than MY STATE – do not e-mail me.
If you just want sex – do not e-mail me.
If you “JUST” want to be “FRIENDS” – do not e-mail me.
If you’re BAMBOOZLED (indecisive) about your quote “VERY GOOD FRIEND” – do not e-mail me.
If you think you will be the “ONLY ONE” spoken to on “Blackplanet” – do not e-mail me.
If you do not have a picture – do not e-mail me.
If you have a picture with no clothes on – do not e-mail me.
If you do not look like your picture – do not e-mail me.
If you have a picture of a cartoon rather than a pic of yourself – do not e-mail me.
If the room in your picture need cleaning – do not e-mail me.
If your apartment has more roaches than people – do not e-mail me.
If your baggage is more than a carry-on – do not e-mail me.
If you don’t have time to spend with a brother/sister – do not e-mail me.
(REPHRASED) If you don’t have time to date – do not e-mail me.
(REPHRASED AGAIN!) If you don’t have time to make a phone call – do not e-mail me.
If you are going to give out your number but don’t answer the phone – do not e-mail me.
If you are going to give out your number but your number’s disconnected – do not e-mail me.
If you cannot spell – do not e-mail me.
If you can only respond with one-to-two word notes – do not e-mail me.
If you are a stripper or an exotic dancer – do not e-mail me.
If you want me to go to a “PORN SITE” – do not e-mail me.
If you are bi-sexual, “AND” don’t want me in the mix – do not e-mail me.
If you are “TRANS-SEXUAL” – DO NOT e-mail me.
If you are “GAY” – do not e-mail me.
If you “HATE” men – do not e-mail me.
If you are going to get “MAD” if I eat potato chips during phone sex – do not e-mail me.
If you going to be “MAD” at me all the time – do not e-mail me.
If you going to bring your “MADNESS” to me – do not e-mail me.
If you have a stalker after you – do not e-mail me.
If you have a WARRANT – do not e-mail me.
If you have a baby on the way – do not e-mail me.
If you like to “TOSS SALADS” – do not e-mail me.
If you are a vegetarian – do not e-mail me.
If you are on psychotic medication – do note-mail me.
If you don’t live near Gotham City – do not e-mail me.
If you don’t know where Gotham City is – do not e-mail me. (just kidding)
If your bio states you live in New York – but you actually live in New Mexico – do not e-mail me.
If you are CIA secretive about yourself – do not e-mail me.
If you are healthy, wealthy, and wise and would take your children to a HOMELESS SHELTER – to get a FREE APARTMENT – do not e-mail me.
White people: If you have “KLAN” (KKK) in your immediate family – do not e-mail me.
AFRICANS / GHANIANS: If you can’t afford a plane ticket to get here – do not e-mail me.
If you are afraid to take chances on a relationship and/or don’t know what you want – do not e-mail me.
If you do not believe what I’m saying in my bio – do not e-mail me.
If you think that I’m too good to be “TRUE” – do not e-mail me.
If you are a woman/man who likes to play games – I believe there are over 2 million other women/men on this website you can play with – do not e-mail me!!!
Find the Station by paying attention to how you receive information (Check
out the article on “Psychic Readings” for more information about different
psychic types. You may receive information through your feelings.
Something just ‘feels’ like a good idea, or in another case you don’t feel good
about a situation. This is guidance.
You may receive nagging knowings…thoughts that won’t go away. This too
is guidance. Or you may notice several synchronicities in your life. You
have a thought about taking some classes. A friend mentions the same topic to
you, and later in the day you flip open to an article in a magazine on the
subject. This is guidance.
You may be lucky enough to see things in your meditations or in your
dreams. These messages are either literal (these often seem extremely real) or
symbolic. It may take some time for you to understand the symbols in your
dreams and meditations but with practice you can learn. _These books can
help you_ (http://www.visionsofheaven.com/bookdocs/BKDreams.html) . Finally
some people actually hear guidance as plain as a voice outside their head. If
you hear voices you are not crazy, you are simply clairaudient.
If you’d like to practice tuning into your angels on a daily basis, check
out the _Date with Your Angels Meditation_
(http://www.visionsofheaven.com/storedocs/storeIndx.html) . My angels gave me
this beautiful guided journey
to help assist people in connecting with the higher realms.
Practice & Ask for Validation! Ask your angels and guides for guidance in
all things in your life. Wait to see how and when the answers show up.
Remember you may not get an immediate answer! You will get an answer or the
guidance at the perfect time. If you are not getting an answer, check your
question! You can also randomly flip this book to get messages from your
angels:
Clear the static by taking good care of yourself. Sleep well. Eat
decently, and take time for some mental and emotional recreation. While this
may
seem impossible in our hectic schedules, it is imperative that you have some
down time in order to create a space for higher guidance to enter your
mind. Think of your mind as a clear pond. When your mind is still it reflects
the higher realities perfectly. When it is chaotic, the messages still come
in but they may be distorted, much like reflections are distorted by
ripples on a pond. Is meditating necessary? No. I have found it to be the
most helpful way of clearing the mind, but there are other methods. For
example, you may clear your mind by walking, driving, cooking, dancing, or a
variety of other activities that make you happy and make you focus on the
present moment.
Give me other examples of “static.”Anger, frustration, confusion,
fatigue, hunger, distractions, etc. are static. Anything that takes you away
from
the present moment and away from peace is static.
I’ve been meditating. Why can’t I get any messages yet?Meditation or any
activity that gives you peace prepares the mind to receive guidance. You
may not get your answers or insights in the meditation itself, but rather you
are learning to stay at peace so you can recognize the guidance when it
comes. I’ll tell you more about how you can recognize guidance in the section
below.
Communicating with Your
Angels & Guides
When you start to communicate with angels and spirit guides there are a
few things to keep in mind.
First and foremost, they are always with you whether you can see, hear, or
feel them. They can always hear your mental requests for help, and they
are aware of your soul’s dreams. You may notice you feel or sense them more
easily at different times. When we are disturbed or upset it is harder to
pick up their guidance. Think of your moods as emotional “static”. You will
have an easier time perceiving your angels and guides when you are calm and
clear.
Secondly you may notice that angels and guides often tell you how to
change yourself or your attitude rather than how to change an external
situation. They realize the spiritual truth that our experience of life is
created
by our perspective. We may not create the situations in which we find
ourselves, but we do create our experience of that situation. For example, I
once
wanted to know how to sell more of a product that I’d agreed to sell. I
was sitting in a store waiting for customers, and at the same time was
fighting exhaustion. My angels kept answering my question by telling me to “go
home and sleep.” I persisted in asking them how to get more sales. They
persisted in telling me to take care of myself. I finally gave in, went home
and
slept. While I was asleep, three people called to order the product!
Obviously higher truth leads to better results in your life!
Finally, remember that an angel or guide will never tell you what to do!
They will make suggestions that come via nagging knowings, gut instincts,
and synchronicities, but they will never violate your free will. You can
listen to their suggestions or ignore them and in either case they will
continue to guide you with love. Your angels and guides never give up on you!
Also, remember if you want help in your life, ask! Angels and guides can
provide much more assistance in our lives if we use our free will to give
them permission. Ask for help with parking spaces. Ask for help in finding
and creating loving relationships. Ask for help in clearing out old negative
beliefs and patterns. Ask for help in finding a new job. Ask for help in
creating an easy move. Ask for help in everything in life! Everything! My
angels remind me that the happier we are, the more we are apt to do good in
the world. If you don’t get something you ask for, assume it is not in your
highest good at this time. Trust in the wisdom of Higher Power and know that
the angels and your guides are assisting in carrying out Divine Will in
your life.
Each of us is an angel with one wing. And we can only fly if we embrace each other